[Discussion Forum] Harsh words, or the Piercing silence!

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Zara Aawaz ka Lehza to badlo,
Zara Maddham karo is aanch ko Sonaa.n
Ke jal jaate hain Kungre narm Rishton ke
Zara Alfaaz ke Nakhun tarasho
Bahot Chubhte hain jab Narazgi se baat karti ho…!

-Gulzar Saab

A few days ago, a very special friend of mine sent it to me. The couplets left me wondering, which hurts more in a relationship when things are not so good:

1. Harsh words… that convey things one never meant to say, OR
2. The piercing silence… that nullify every attempt to bring things on track.

Would love to know what you guys think.

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14 thoughts on “[Discussion Forum] Harsh words, or the Piercing silence!

  1. Yes, i have experienced this, there are very few people who now show interest to hindi/urdu liteature, it is very sad we are going away from our roots.

    Good news is I have found entire series of Mirza Ghalib serial on torrentz, will watch it soon.

  2. ‘Silence’ and ‘harsh-words’ just act as a medium to emote the feeling…..I guess its just the helplessness one feels when the person in concern doesn’t relate to what you say or fails to understand what you mean. Things don’t hurt……people do……

  3. @ :),

    …..I guess its just the helplessness one feels when the person in concern doesn’t relate to what you say or fails to understand what you mean.

    …and what do you do in such a situation?
    Or let me put it another way, “When do you say ‘enough is enough’?”.

  4. Well I believe the word ‘enough’ is not meant when love is in picture.
    When you love and care for someone, then its never ‘enough’. Same goes when a shallow phase comes…….its never ‘enough’.You will be surprised by yourself to what you extent you can push,stretch and endure everything for the one you love. You never say its enough….and if you do…..then love itself becomes a big question mark.

  5. @ :),
    I did expect this answer from you, but not so bluntly (in a good way). I was expecting more round-round talk 😛
    hmmm…. So… looks like I am on the right track… or should I say, I always was 🙂

    Kaasid ke aate-aate khat ik aur likh rakhoon,
    Main janta hoo woh jo likhenge jawab mein…
    😛
    –Mirza Ghalib
    (No special reasons for writing it as such, am just listening to it right now)

  6. I think Gulzar Saheb’s words come up core of his heart and that too so effortlessly. A person who thoroughly has lived life and equally enjoyed both its happiness and pain can come up something like this :

    ‘Tere bina zindagi se koyi shikwa to nahi……..
    ……..tere bina zindagi bhi lekin zindagi to nahi, zindagi nahi, zindagi nahi, zindagi nahi’

    ….Its because of love that you owe your existence to other person….no matter what the other person feels/behaves.

    Sajde Gulzar Saheb ke !!

  7. ‘Tere bina zindagi se koyi shikwa to nahi……..
    ……..tere bina zindagi bhi lekin zindagi to nahi, zindagi nahi, zindagi nahi, zindagi nahi’

    Beautiful, and yet one of the most powerful lines we have come across.
    But you know what!
    At the end of the day, “knowing” & “understanding” things doesn’t really matter much. All that matters is how one applied it to come through. I have seen a number of stupid couples who don’t really understand the intricacies of a relationship, they fight over small issues… but at the end of the day, come together.
    On the other hand, you come across people of high intellectual, say Gulzar Saab, who have “touched” us for decades with their beautiful portrayal of relationships, and yet have been unable to apply the understanding to overcome the dark phases in their own lives. I don’t wish to hurt those who have been through such phases, I just wish to say it’s sad…. and may be even, pointless to have so much of knowledge.

    I guess, it all boils down to one simple thing, as you said, it’s never enough. There’s no end to the pursuit. The relationship needs to be treated as a *process*, instead of an event.

    By the way, if you noticed, we’ve moved a little away from the topic, as usual 🙂
    The questions still remains as simple as, which situation hurts more, the silent treatment or those harsh showers, in your opinion?

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